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So what? If a guy *does not* want to be a father, he shouldnt be having sex with women unless he knows, for sure, they have a similar attitude when it comes unintended pregnancy. He didnt expose her to STDs. And the LW is making it seem as if her poor bf did nothing. There are unfair aspects of the whole legal and biological reproductive system for both men AND women. Sigh. Its not fair to create a child and then abandon it. You pack of hypocrites. Dream about boyfriend got another girl pregnant - Dreams`opedia April 10, 2012, 7:35 pm. April 9, 2012, 2:39 pm. WTF!!! But coke didnt mean for its bottle to explode and take your arm off either. They are babies. Jess of CGW Might he have continued sleeping with her? Im not sure why you think this woman is trying to trap your boyfriend unless there are other details you didnt provide. I think the key is that the choice to abort doesnt result in an innocent child that still has needs to be met. Please do better. But what a guy usually doesn't take into consideration is that a lot has happened after the breakup. First, if you cant live without someone, why did you need a break? At which point, no matter what form the chastisement comes, feminists are going to be looking for REAL men..and not finding them. Exactly where is there a grown-up here? Its not some big secret that women have that option and that men are legally obligated to provide financially if she exercises that option. Cold, but I suppose not unheard of. And I appreciate that he made his decision and stuck with it, instead of deciding to drop in and out whenever he felt like. Fair or not, the facts are what they are. We met up again and my family grew fond of him finally. Theres many reasons besides wanting a mans money to not get an abortion. Crazy likes crazy. The hand and fingers were all bright red and black-and-blue under the nails. As of now, all he has done is indicated that he wanted her to have an abortion. I havent, and even though I am 110% pro-choice, Im not sure if its something I could actually do. Of course it is, but we have no way of knowing that the other woman was lying about that. April 9, 2012, 11:16 am, Oh, good lord. I didnt mean to imply it wasnt true, it just unfortunately isnt enforceable. Yes, he had unprotected sex. Wow..two mintueswhen did he realize he couldnt stand her before or after the two minutes? You seem upset at biology that women are the ones that carry the children and and therefore has the ability to decide or not to continue on with a pregnancy whereas a guy doesnt have that same right. Just sayin. Hes scum because he plans on abandoning the baby. The fact that all this happened doesnt mean hes some despicable jackass. Steve Wilkos ANGRY Moments | Steve Wilkos ANGRY Moments | By Shukla Its not a complex procedure. Men still lose here, because if theyre they one who wants the child, tough luck, but thats the way it is. Im late to this, but WHAT THE FUCK. April 9, 2012, 12:49 pm. If you dont do these things and you end up donating the genetic material for a person that gets born and is running around and youre its dad, you pony up some child support because it took two people to make that kid. We . I think hes allowed to have an opinion about the woman after all, hes about to be handcuffed to her for the next 19 years or so. But clearly this woman who is keeping her child DOES really want the child and is presumably prepared to handle all that comes with having a child. Whatever happened to you to make you hate women doesnt have to mean a lifetime of whiny bitterness. Which includes emotional support, not just financial. I think hes scum because 1.- he asked the other woman to have an abortion and 2.- now hes mad that she didnt. landygirl Only it is the LW who seems intent on absolving the boyfriend from all responsibility saying furious. I think that one should be able to decide if one is ready to be a parent and, if not, make that clear when there is time to abort the pregnancy. They can both make a choice but only Susie must physically implement the plan. Oh, and im missing the misogyny in that child support comment. This child will have no father and while I dont feel bad for the parents, I feel very bad for this child. The law does, because once the child is here, through no fault of its own, it needs to be supported in order to have a successful life and successful children are in the best interest of all of society. Or shes against abortion. That isnt the case. I think theyre unfair in the same way that I feel its unfair to prevent women from having abortions, but thatss beside the point. lets_be_honest Im pretty sure we can all agree on that? Hes not obligated to be there emotionally, especially if he made it clear to the woman that he did not want this baby in the first place. John Rohan If the childs mother fully intends to love and support and care for her child, and explain to him/her that their biological fathers lack of desire to be a dad or deficits has nothing to do with him/her that child will grow up no worse for wear. But now no one wants to deal with it. Think of the children. Maybe because she wants a tie to the LWs boyfriend. But its her body Well, department of labor clearly shows that statistically a man in a low-paying job is far more likely to die in a workplace accident over the course of 18 years than a woman over a normal pregnancy. Yes, it takes 2 to tango but she is the one carrying the child and an abortion isnt just an easy thing to do. Malarky. Only a valid argument of youre completely unaware of how babies are made and that birth control does not prevent pregnancy but only reduces the likelihood. The baby is coming, the product of a two month relationship. No, a responsible father who is involved in the childs life will get joint custody. A Breakup During Pregnancy Made Me Realize the Mom I Want to Be Agree. Last I checked being gay doesnt mean you are also a genius who never makes mistakes. We all know breakups are painful. April 10, 2012, 5:49 pm. Close to $1,000 and thats for a shitty one. Cowards who abandon responsibility when they dont want to deal with it dont make good partners. The point is that no one cares about your guesswork, sunshine. Now pay for the childs necessities in life. At conception there is a zygote, then an embryo and then a fetus. Want to be disappointed, read the comments first and then read the letter. This man in the letter has spent those same 25 years being an ever-aging manchild. Both men and women create children. Is this Twilight, for Gods sake? Why, my God, you could have hit a chid running out in the street. =), lets_be_honest Documents were drawn up by said lawyers. However, my point isnt that children should not be supported. bittergaymark Let him go. The risk of pregnancy if something goes wrong broken condom, etc. You may love and care for this man and attack the other women all day long, but at the end of the day, you do not have a relationship and nothing has changed. We decided to get back together as we cant bear life without each other. You are the one who is keeping this rollercoaster of a relationship going with him. Itll be hard work, but I genuinely think it can be done. I attempt to avoid name calling, but if you have a problem with one person ASKING another person to do or not do ANYTHING, you are a poor excuse for an adult! And we dont really know that she actually said shes on the pill or if she is indeed really pregnant or if the lw truly wants him to go off and marry the other woman. And I do commend him for providing financial support. That would be the end of any sort of relationship sex. She has to go through a pregnancy no matter what (assuming she doesnt believe in abortion). You are an entitled, awful, C.U.N.T for even THINKING that you have an opinion on what this woman does with her pregnancy. It would be nice if he said hed rather not have a kid, but he said that he is not happy that she is pregnant, and asked if she could abort. Its a good word. I feel stupid once again and a part of me feels that he may come back to me again and I really dont want to be involved, but Im so weak and dont know how to let go. That is not a legally binding document and is unenforceable. But sometimes, we don't even realize just how painful they are until after they've happened, and the person you love . They are all pointing out that the bf is equally responsible for the childs existence and should respect her right to choose.Not only that but they advise the LW to consider her bf role in this drama and not take her anger out on the pregnant woman (who owes her nothing), John Rohan That is what passes for reality in your world? Wow RR, I like it when you get angry. female Dont engage in the action. But, you allowed him to call and you were hoping he had changed. Men should be held at least halfway responsible for the resulting pregnancy and child but should have no authority to decide upon his involvement. Pardon me, butare you fucking KIDDING me?! Call me crazy, but I dont see any partys reaction to this crazy. If you are a woman, if you just met a guy, and if you become pregnant, you can get 20+ years of child support. Its a great idea, really, for someone who is unfit and probably on the verge of abuse or something else horrible. But were here to offer advice to LW, so I say evanscr05 is right: Dump this loser, yesterday. I think its more like HIV sufferers are more likely to be honest about how they got it because there isnt a societal blind eye for bullshitting about your personal responsibility for ending up in the predicament. Youre asking them to have a medical procedure and abort their unborn child. Where the issue comes in is who physically is around the child more, which is placement, which though there has been progress tends to err on the side of the mother still, with all other things being equal. Everyone is in charge of their own decisions. Not necessarily. Will He Regret Losing Me? 14 Guys Share Their Breakup Regrets - Elite Daily I do plan to stay on my birth control because having a period every month doesnt sound like loads of fun after only having 4 a year for so long. In my opinion, a deadbeat leaves his child, abandons the mother, and offers no financial support. Everything is he: He is in love with you, so in love that he humped another woman; so in love that he wanted to kill a baby to be with you. We do live in a world where your opinion on one thing may not in fact be the most correct or perhaps their might even be two sides, both reasonable and rational positions to take. Your choice. So while support is gender-blind, the points that get you to the question of support arent, which kind of means support isnt either. It could fail. Then the unlikely happens. I dont understand the level of anger sparked by this man not wanting to be physically involved in this childs life. But it happened. If youre going to be all bent out of shape if the stranger youre sleeping with has your baby then Id ask for a hand job instead. No, he could be furious at the legal system that compelled it or at the woman (who, by the way, was equally culpable in the creation) who opts to continue with a child only she wants.. And I tend to agree that with certain situations, men end up with the raw end of the deal. Just feeding on each other and leaving a trail of human wreckage in their wake. And as a grown adult; as a person whos lived 40 years and should have acquired a sense of decency and maturity; you should own up to the consequences of your actions. Stop this back and forth with him. Read the comments. It will have feelings too. Painted_lady Girls dropped the single "So Typically Now" way back in July of last year, it was clear Meg Remy's next outing would continue the wild ride kicked off when . Its when a mans sperm connects with a womans egg. Theres a fun scenario. The 5 Top Giveaway Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship - Vixen Daily 9 Feelings Everyone Experiences When They Find Out Their Ex Is - Romper If you were having a good communication way with him before, you can found out that he got another girl pregnant before you were dating. Please help. Secondly, it is a medical procedure. am . If the person who carried the child to term (woman) wants to turn the kid over to adoptive parents to care for it, then the responsibilitys on them. But if that rape victim gave birth to the child, dropped it on the rapists doorstep and left, its highly probable that the law would pursue her for child support. All that does is make 3 people miserable (both parents plus the child). And not even the most important part. Heres how I interpreted it. whose pregnancy and right to bear the child are apparently sacrosanct.-yep, true story But wherever youre writing from, I suspect the child support laws are strong enough that, if she goes after it, he wont have much choice. Welcome to parenthood. He says it's a mistake and just did it to forget me. Look, you broke up with him because your relationship had some problems, and because of trust issues, and his inability to commit to you. lets_be_honest We still cant quite manage partheogenesis or budding. Actions have consequences. Thats certainly the type of person you want as your husband. Months after we broke up, he would come and go as he pleased. I know you may not have that much faith in women based on your comments (here and on previous posts) but just look at what the women on this page have written. Takeoff Shot in Head and Torso, According to Coroner Report, Aaron Carter Pulled Over On Suspicion Of DUI While Driving RV. Offers may be subject to change without notice. Is he supposed to just bend over and let her decide how his life is going to go, until the day he dies, just because they had sex once? Youre only asking for heartache down the road. The more you fight for another womans man, the more desperate you look. Or pining away for a father figure theyll never, ever have? MOA, and wash your hands of the whole thing. .. but what if she did deceive him? Coke bottle explodes taking off your arm = coke pays. Men cant choose to abort because biology dictates that the fetus is not in their body. I dont think she should have any sort of legal say about the decision to keep the baby, but I dont think shes committing some horrendous crime for judging it. Its none of your business. "Cry, vent and . Women can decide to abort the pregnancy or to give the child up for adoption, both of which are choices that remove any future obligation. SpaceySteph They shouldnt just play house for the sake of the kid. But again the adoption makes that all moot. Essence may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website. Of course we have a right to an opinion, even if our opinion is that dirty sluts shouldnt breed. Nope, none of it matters. Three babies? Ask Dr. Sherry: 'My Fianc Got Another Woman Pregnant, Now - Essence And, yes, he should be taking precautions against STDs because even if he never gets back with the LW, is he going to remain celibate for the rest of his life? bittergaymark It was unplanned and a . Plenty dont. reader, Junebug2589+, writes (22 November 2008): A evanscr05 What do you think happens to the fetus? 4. stop stressing so much.many children are born under worse circumstances the guy and his ex its their problem to solve not yours. April 10, 2012, 7:06 pm. I dont believe in forcing people to become parents either. Is that your position, or am I misinterpreting it? Why are you mopping and crying over a man who clearly doesnt want to be with you? Its called lying. He sounds a bit flakey. He basically put you out of his mind, then he wanted you to assume his guilt. If you know you absolutely dont want kids, do everything you can to prevent them. At this point, its an easy thing to resolve this without decades of support and animosity. SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM!!! Oh, really? I make no exception for men or women. Step back and take a look at what you have told us. And shame on you for agreeing that he is entitled to this opinion. If you were thinking about breaking up with herthe pregnancy might be a trap. The choice to get pregnant was mutual. I told him I wanted nothing to do with him anymore. ele4phant You cant live without food. Ive grown up better being raised by a loving, supportive mother who wanted me than by two parents who didnt want to be together, one of whom readily admitted he wasnt ready or willing to be a father. By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. There isnt even a child on the scene yet (!) iseeshiny T he mystery of Tom's sudden baby endured until several years ago when I looked him up on Facebook. We remained friends with Benefits for months because I wanted too and he said with or without sex, he doesn't want to lose this friendship but I wanted the sex lol I . Fine. That goes for women as well. Im NOT saying she should abort, just that shes an idiot & she shouldnt expect a one-night stander to suddenly be a father. You can leave this dude, try to learn to live life on your own, try to show compassion toward your fellow women, and try to learn to identify unhealthy relationships straight away, before you find yourself embroiled in more soap-opera style theatrics. He cant be irresponsible and fail to take every reasonable effort to avoid pregnancy (doubling up on BC and using condoms, getting a vasectomy, or only having sex with women he knows beyond a shadow of a doubt also do not want to bring children into the world), and then act surprised and angry when it happens anyways. Thank you, Roxy84! Imagine that you get to design a law that will allow fairness no matter which of these happens. At the point where he had options he chose one that could result in a pregnancy. Bless This Mess. No, then I would say she is just stupid. Thats the risk that you take. Wanting nothing to do with his child, which like it or not seems to be coming, is not acceptable- and a mature girlfriend would help him to see that these are the cards hes been dealt, and that he now has to work with them. Hes allowed to not want to be a father! Its the law. I see no reason why the mother in this scenario cannot be a great parent who can explain, in a way that doesnt hurt them or damage their self-worth, why they were put up for adoption [or only have one parent involved], SpaceySteph Dear Bossip: We Broke Up And He Got Another Woman Pregnant

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